There are five main phrases and keywords in this title; STOP-THINKING, SEX, FOCUS and GOALS. Many times, one would think that the real things distracting him or her from achieving his or her tasks are very serious issues, not knowing that the perpetual concentration of mind on sex could be a dangerous waster of creativity, time, mental energy and resources, especially financially.

Thinking about sex is perfectly natural. We’re hormonal, sexual beings, whose genes drive us to procreate. But sometimes, sexual thoughts can become overwhelming, making it difficult to focus and difficult to get simple things done. However, it’s possible for those urges and desires to become more like background noise instead of major thoughts as you go through your everyday life, especially when you should be thinking more about career, education, health, interests and hobbies, family and friends, money.

A man cannot build a strong legacy, if he spends most of his times in pulling down different ladies’ pants. Neither can a woman achieve greatness if she spends most of her times being laid.

If a certain friend or person, time of day, mood or emotion always leads you to distracting thoughts about sex, learn to spot those triggers that drag your mind into the gutter. Create a list of your triggers. For example, do you think about sex:
• First thing when you wake in the morning
• During a particular activity, like gym, music videos, games, yoga, etc.
• On the bus.
• When you’re supposed to be studying or working.
• When you’re around the opposite sex.
• In bed.
• Or when you are bored and alone
• Is there any drink like alcohol, fruit, food or addiction that does that triggering, then handle it now that you know.

One of the ways to create the defends is to Keep a list of unsexy topics. This is basically what you consider the opposite of sexy. You could try turning yourself off by training yourself to think of unsexy things when your mind drifts into sexual territory. Anything that you would consider an unsexy mental diversion could work here.
Something like:
Make specific plans to fill idle time in your schedule by planning things in advance.
Creativity: Translate your sex drive into creative energy. Take the time you’d usually spend thinking about sex and instead devote it to a creative hobby. If it’s something you really enjoy, it can provide you with an alternate avenue for catharsis and satisfaction, keeping your mind busy. Stuffs like; Writing, including journaling, Singing, playing a musical instrument, or spinning, Painting, drawing, or sculpting. Knitting or sewing.

Think of sex in romantic terms. If you are married or in a relationship, use your sexual drive to act in a loving and caring manner toward your partner. Be romantic instead of strictly sexual, per se. That way, you can build the emotional intimacy you share with each other.
• Try thinking about how much knowledge is available in this world and how little you have then jump on your internet to research anything you would love to know, sex thoughts will go
• Thinking about some other work is also cool
• Everyone needs time to relax, but finding yourself with hours of time on your hands might lead to backsliding. Schedule your day full with events and activities to better yourself. Leave a bit of time at the end of the day for reflection and relaxation, but not so much that you’ll get too bored.

As far as sex is concerned, the more one enjoys it, the more intense a burning desire will arise. Then sex will alight even more. Whatever happiness one enjoys, the thirst for it will increase. The thirst increases due to enjoyment. The thirst will go away by not indulging in it. By not getting involved in the sexual act, one may become uneasy and unsettled for a month or two. However loss of familiarity is the key. With loss of familiarity, one will completely forget sexuality”.

You can do this by thinking about all the ways that the pleasure derived from sexuality is merely illusory, not real, and only temporary. Interrupt the link of sexual thoughts as soon as they arise in the mind. You can do this by changing the activity you are doing, changing your focus, thinking about some other work.
• The moment any sexual thoughts arise within, pluck it immediately and throw it away.
You should think about all the consequences of being entrapped in sensual pleasures, and all the cost of having sex.
The financial, emotional, spiritual, creativity and moral loss we suffer by constantly putting your mind in sex with people that do not deserve your time, attention and financial loss is crazy.

Don’t you know that sometimes we destroy beautiful relationships like marriage, dating commitments due to the fact that exchange of sex with different fellows makes maintaining one sex partner to become boring and uninteresting, this may eventually result in making our spouse emotionally less valuable and even more fatal issues in the family.

What about the fact that you can’t face your creator just after sex or the thought of it.

This write-up is not a religious material neither is it intended to make the reader a celibate. Truth is, to be constantly and perpetually thinking about and indulging in sex is a NO NO NO for anyone that is aiming for serious heights and success in life.

Winner of 2019 Big Brother Naija, Miss Mercy Eke has said she wants her old life back, as she is tired of the whole ‘celebrity status’, back, forth, what not.

Mercy during a live session with her Instagram fans said she wants to return to the time when she wakes up everyday without doing nothing.

Mercy noted that though this is what she prayed for, but this is unusually extreme.

She says she now has a daily calendar she sticks to and noted that she has only seen her mother once, since winning the Big Brother Naija Reality TV show.

Mercy really shocked her fans by complaining of Celebrity status that she really fought for.