A Nigerian man has taken to news site, nairaland to educate controversial Journalist, Femi Olunloyo and her fellow well-to-do but unmarried ladies cum feminists on what could possibly be the cause of their situation, despite their pretence.

Kemi Olunloyo had taken to her Instagram page to post why she has never gotten married at her 56years on earth. According to her, she has never been married because she doesn’t want to submit to a man. She even described women who submit to men as being weak and unhappy.

But in a quick reply, a nairalander counters her claims as being false and pretentious.

He said “Submitting to a man doesn’t indicate weakness, rather it indicates femininity. The desire to submit to a man is the quintessence of being a woman. Every woman wants to submit to a man, but there is a caveat: It has to be an attractive “alpha” man that’s higher than her financially and in terms of social status. 

“Even so called feminists and independent women still have men that they submit to in private. These men own their bodies and they do whatever these men ask them to. But they’ll come online to pretend and talk rubbish.

“Even this Kemi has a powerful man that has her pussy on his beck and call. The reason she isn’t married is because no man in his right senses will want to get married to a 56 year old woman with serious mental issues.

“Another thing is that the kind of men that wealthy, successful independent women like Kemi, LindanIkeji, Genevieve etc would be attracted to, tend to be on the top 10% percent of men, and these men are so alpha and so high value that their commitment and attention is so difficult to get. These men find it hard to commit to women, hence why most of these successful women hardly get married.

“The more successful a woman becomes, the harder it is to get commitment from the high value men they are attracted to, because these men simply will not commit. So they either have to settle for the low value beta men that will willingly commit and endure a boring, unsatisfying relationship with him, or become sex partners/baby mamas to the high value men that won’t commit”.

The controversial media influencer, Kemi has been consistent about her insistence that she is not interested in marriage, as according to her marriage is more us of a curse for women.

The breastly endowed Dora is not taking it lightly with Ozo over his indecision on who he wants to lavish his love on.

Dora who feels she has many options, despite preferring Ozo, wants the light skin housemate to be open and more forthcoming on his romantic relationship.

Dora went as far as saying “I am spending more time with you, and Praise is my spec and you, you are not saying anything. Imagine myself in your shoes, I’m in the middle of left and right. I think I will have to remove myself”

Despite the blank cheque from Dora, Ozo who appears not ready for an emotional engagement applied diplomacy, and repeatedly shy away from baring his mind to Dora. Leaving Dora to lose patience, telling him to go “out of the room and leave me alone”

Surprisingly, within split seconds Ozo was found with Nengi gisting and looking at each other suspiciously. Nengi who seems less distracted on her focus and hunt for Ozo didn’t miss taking advantage of some opportunities to pop relevant ‘booby trap’ questions. What the hell did she mean by ‘ I am always shy when someone says he likes me’ trust the diplomatic Ozo, he immediately dissapointed her by questing “who likes you?”.

Ozo: “when we see tomorrow , it’s gonna be different”

Nengi: “how?”

Ozo: “you won’t need to think about what’s on my mind (feelings)”

Nengi: “we’ll see”

They hugged and said their Good nights.

The days ahead seem very pregnant for BBN as more housemates are coming out of their pretence to shoot their shots.

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There are five main phrases and keywords in this title; STOP-THINKING, SEX, FOCUS and GOALS. Many times, one would think that the real things distracting him or her from achieving his or her tasks are very serious issues, not knowing that the perpetual concentration of mind on sex could be a dangerous waster of creativity, time, mental energy and resources, especially financially.

Thinking about sex is perfectly natural. We’re hormonal, sexual beings, whose genes drive us to procreate. But sometimes, sexual thoughts can become overwhelming, making it difficult to focus and difficult to get simple things done. However, it’s possible for those urges and desires to become more like background noise instead of major thoughts as you go through your everyday life, especially when you should be thinking more about career, education, health, interests and hobbies, family and friends, money.

A man cannot build a strong legacy, if he spends most of his times in pulling down different ladies’ pants. Neither can a woman achieve greatness if she spends most of her times being laid.

If a certain friend or person, time of day, mood or emotion always leads you to distracting thoughts about sex, learn to spot those triggers that drag your mind into the gutter. Create a list of your triggers. For example, do you think about sex:
• First thing when you wake in the morning
• During a particular activity, like gym, music videos, games, yoga, etc.
• On the bus.
• When you’re supposed to be studying or working.
• When you’re around the opposite sex.
• In bed.
• Or when you are bored and alone
• Is there any drink like alcohol, fruit, food or addiction that does that triggering, then handle it now that you know.

One of the ways to create the defends is to Keep a list of unsexy topics. This is basically what you consider the opposite of sexy. You could try turning yourself off by training yourself to think of unsexy things when your mind drifts into sexual territory. Anything that you would consider an unsexy mental diversion could work here.
Something like:
Make specific plans to fill idle time in your schedule by planning things in advance.
Creativity: Translate your sex drive into creative energy. Take the time you’d usually spend thinking about sex and instead devote it to a creative hobby. If it’s something you really enjoy, it can provide you with an alternate avenue for catharsis and satisfaction, keeping your mind busy. Stuffs like; Writing, including journaling, Singing, playing a musical instrument, or spinning, Painting, drawing, or sculpting. Knitting or sewing.

Think of sex in romantic terms. If you are married or in a relationship, use your sexual drive to act in a loving and caring manner toward your partner. Be romantic instead of strictly sexual, per se. That way, you can build the emotional intimacy you share with each other.
• Try thinking about how much knowledge is available in this world and how little you have then jump on your internet to research anything you would love to know, sex thoughts will go
• Thinking about some other work is also cool
• Everyone needs time to relax, but finding yourself with hours of time on your hands might lead to backsliding. Schedule your day full with events and activities to better yourself. Leave a bit of time at the end of the day for reflection and relaxation, but not so much that you’ll get too bored.

As far as sex is concerned, the more one enjoys it, the more intense a burning desire will arise. Then sex will alight even more. Whatever happiness one enjoys, the thirst for it will increase. The thirst increases due to enjoyment. The thirst will go away by not indulging in it. By not getting involved in the sexual act, one may become uneasy and unsettled for a month or two. However loss of familiarity is the key. With loss of familiarity, one will completely forget sexuality”.

You can do this by thinking about all the ways that the pleasure derived from sexuality is merely illusory, not real, and only temporary. Interrupt the link of sexual thoughts as soon as they arise in the mind. You can do this by changing the activity you are doing, changing your focus, thinking about some other work.
• The moment any sexual thoughts arise within, pluck it immediately and throw it away.
You should think about all the consequences of being entrapped in sensual pleasures, and all the cost of having sex.
The financial, emotional, spiritual, creativity and moral loss we suffer by constantly putting your mind in sex with people that do not deserve your time, attention and financial loss is crazy.

Don’t you know that sometimes we destroy beautiful relationships like marriage, dating commitments due to the fact that exchange of sex with different fellows makes maintaining one sex partner to become boring and uninteresting, this may eventually result in making our spouse emotionally less valuable and even more fatal issues in the family.

What about the fact that you can’t face your creator just after sex or the thought of it.

This write-up is not a religious material neither is it intended to make the reader a celibate. Truth is, to be constantly and perpetually thinking about and indulging in sex is a NO NO NO for anyone that is aiming for serious heights and success in life.